Gratitude Even When You Don't Wanna!

Herb Nerd, Kristen Acesta

Herb Nerd, Kristen Acesta

By Ron Evans

Recently I was speaking about gratitude with co-owner of Salt Creek Apothecary and self-acknowledged Herb Nerd, Kristen Acesta. Her advice and philosophy were too good to not share so I immediately told her to shut it. Until we could have a proper interview on the subject for The Comet, that is. It went like this:

Ron: I’m usually pretty decent with gratitude. At least occasionally. But...I’m rebelling against it right now like a bratty four-year-old.

Kristen: Four year olds are pretty wise, or at least that has been my experience.  Maybe you’re on to something. In general I see people believing that by practicing gratitude it means you have to be (or will be) happy, or even content.  So maybe the rebellion is your form of gratitude to the world. We should probably start off by defining what we mean by gratitude, and then if you really are being a selfish brat we can work on your adverse childhood events and teach you some gratitude tips (gratitude doesn’t completely fix these btw).

Gratitude is simply the practice of recognition and respect. The definition is: the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.  But 1. You need to have recognition of what is around you first and foremost in order to give thanks to it and 2. We need to define what kindness looks like (especially self directed kindness).  

In the current atmosphere, I see a lot of posts on facebook swirling around like “my children are driving me nuts being at home 24/7 buuuuuuuuuut I should be grateful that they are home and safe.”

My argument would be that both can be true.  You can have bratty four year olds who decided that your late filing tax return documents were a coloring project for which you are enraged about.  And be grateful for them. A step further, you can be grateful for the recognition of emotion that you feel in that very moment of avant garde impressionist artwork.

How do you work through your emotions or knee-jerk feelings as a response to circumstances - to get to a place of gratitude?

The difference is that gratitude is not an emotion, it’s an action.  We all experience emotions. One could argue that at the root of them they are neither negative nor positive, but as it turns out humans classify them that way.  Can we experience a perceived negative emotion while fostering gratitude? Maybe for the lesson it brings, or the other positive emotions it sometimes brings but maybe just not now (like your children sucking up all your personal space but they can be cute and snuggly sometimes)? The answer is yes. The question wasn’t exactly rhetorical. 

But that is an example most people can find on their own. That is one of those easy paradox situations where you feel something negative but shame yourself into thinking you should be feeling otherwise (this is what I typically see in gratitude practice). The harder stuff is describing what kindness looks like directed towards yourself as a form of gratitude and letting yourself experience the negative.

One of the key points here is that it is incredibly important to recognize and feel the emotion that you are feeling at this very moment, even if it’s anger, hate, pity, sadness, elation, anxiety, worry, fear.  Part of the gratitude practice is waking up to the moment and recognizing it (meditation helps here), thanking it, and wishing it farewell (self gratitude practice). And that doesn’t guarantee the emotion will go away either. Maybe you are stuck with it for a while.

My biggest beef with the pseudo meditation new age hippie community is that I find it preaching this peaceful perfect walk through life IF you practice (or if you do yoga, or adopt this mindset, or whatever). And don’t get me wrong, I want you to practice. In fact, we all need to practice, continuously at least. There are wonderful resources in the community for that; Joanna Dunn and Kelli Riddle for example. There needs to be a wake up to the fact that you are in the midst of it whether you like it or not. “It” being right now. That said, waking up to a daily gratitude practice doesn’t mean that life will be prancing unicorns with a unanimous political agenda. In fact it might be just the opposite. You might actually see a bigger divide, that your dad was a dictating a-hole, that you morally object to your job, or just see things in general more clearly.  Maybe you even see yourself more clearly.

Ok, fine. I’m in. Now what? Do we have to go around the table like at Thanksgiving and say what we are thankful for? How do you start?

I do start people with grace actually. It doesn’t have to have a religious context to it, but in our clinic when suggesting people practice, we often recommend starting with a form of grace before eating. It can be as simple as taking three breaths before you shove your pie hole to enjoy the anticipatory act of eating. And I mean, who doesn’t like to eat, right?  Who doesn’t love the smell of smoldering bacon before your lips, still sizzling from the pan? Try extending that enjoyment in a form of gratitude. It’s also a practice of awareness (recognition of the senses). Think of all the ways you love bacon - not just the shoving your mouth full of it. The smell of it cooking on a sleepy Sunday morning before you fully awake. The heat it gives off warning you, suggesting patience on your plate. The feel of it in your mouth, one side a little sloppy and the other hard and crispy. The immediate taste of salt then just a hint of sweetness to leave you with a full hearted savory finish. There are a lot of senses going on in that situation.  In all situations actually. Paying attention to our senses helps ground us back into real time. Then we can more readily see the emotions that color the situation.  

Herb Nerd sticker from Salt Creek Apothecary.

Herb Nerd sticker from Salt Creek Apothecary.

Is being aware of things to be thankful for simply a starting point for having gratitude, or is there more to this? 

There is significantly more to this. It’s the beginning of recognizing and dissolving your self-made paradigms, beliefs, prejudices, preferences, self fulfilling prophecies, boxes you put yourself in, boxes you put others in, and the end-all-be-all separation between what you deem to be your reality and what actually is. Morpheus is giving you the option, choose the red pill Neo.

Is it possible to truly have gratitude during a situation you feel badly about, whether that’s a breakup, losing a job or simply not getting what you want out of your life?

Yes, of course. Pema Chodron talks about the normal state of humans is love. Not the “oh my god, you’re so perfect for me and/or this puppy is so cute I want to eat it” type of love. But compassion and acceptance love. It’s not an emotion. It’s a state of being.

“Hate is not the opposite of love, indifference is” - Elie Wiesel

Just to put it in the negative for reference. Love is not an emotion. You can experience what nearly all of marketing wants you to feel towards something, but it is most often either lust, greed, desire (possession), infatuation/idolization, the list goes on, in fact I believe there are seven of them. Regardless, whatever the feeling is, it’s definitely not love.

You can experience a trying time (losing your job for example), witness the emotion of loss, failure, depression, etc. for which is totally called for and appropriate, and still resolve towards gratitude for life and how the path will lead you.

You can also absolutely hate someone. And still see the path ahead of you (and have gratitude for it). It’s about witnessing the levels. Senses -> Emotions -> Thoughts -> nirvana (I’m not sure it’s linear by the way).

Gratitude helps us start defining those things.

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Virtual History: the museum comes to you

by ron evans

Fire up the laptop and go on a historical walk-about.

Matthew Pippin and Education & Volunteer Specialist Debbie Stewart demonstrate an apple sorter from 1920 as part of the Museum’s Virtual Tour.

Matthew Pippin and Education & Volunteer Specialist Debbie Stewart demonstrate an apple sorter from 1920 as part of the Museum’s Virtual Tour.

Museums and art galleries are on the “must close” list for now and this is leading many venues coming up with clever ways of keeping art, exhibits and educational pastimes alive. The Wenatchee Valley Museum And Cultural Center is now offering virtual tours and boredom busting DIY projects for the armchair visitor of distinguished taste. 

Speaking of distinguished taste, local thespian Matthew Pippin was tapped (he’ll enjoy that turn of phrase) to help host this series of videos with a certain flair only he could bring us. I asked Matthew about the ins and outs of these virtual tours.

Whose idear was this?

Annie Holman, the Curator of Education & Programs. I met her when I hosted a few murder mysteries for the museum last fall which lead to me working the front desk.  After the museum was shut down, we had a week before the stay at home order was given to film a few of the exhibits and do-it-yourself home projects. Giving the children of the valley and beyond who would have been on field trips at the museum a chance to experience something fun at home. 

I was in the museum with Ms. Holman and Debbie Sawyer for most of the filming and it was just the three of us. I had general scripts I'd be handed before each segment and had to get out as many facts as possible with the least amount of takes.

Do you host all of them? What is currently available?

We only had three days of filming, but we were able to do 12 different videos. Whether or not they see the light of day is a totally different story (that's show biz, kid). Currently, I believe there are five videos out with more to be released in the coming weeks.  Some are geared towards children and a few are for general audiences. There are a few others released where I am not hosting. For instance, Kasey Koski, the Curator of Exhibits, hosted one about the high school art that had been on exhibit in the main hall.  

As a usually busy performer all-year-round in the local arts, how have you been coping with all of the stages going dark?

When this pandemic hit, I felt totally useless as a performer. It's my job to make people forget their troubles and I had no outlet. These videos helped me out a lot. Put me to work and I (hopefully) am entertaining while helping educate.  

How can people support the Museum 

Any donations could be made at: wenatcheevalleymuseum.org/donate/

Or…

When the stay at home order is lifted, I'll be happy to take nickels on any street corner.

Head to wenatcheevalleymuseum.org/ for virtual tours, blogs and more. No nickels required. 


B-Sides: 1918 flu pandemic & the loss of a local musician

By Dustin Hays

THE 1918 FLU PANDEMIC & THE LOSS OF A LOCAL MUSICIAN

The Wenatchee Band 1907. Director Louis Crollard is standing to the left of Drum Major George Hauber (the guy with the large white busby hat in the back row). Photo: Wenatchee Valley Museum & Cultural Center 012-51-4210

The Wenatchee Band 1907. Director Louis Crollard is standing to the left of Drum Major George Hauber (the guy with the large white busby hat in the back row). Photo: Wenatchee Valley Museum & Cultural Center 012-51-4210

The 1918 'Spanish' flu first came through town in October of 1918, with the first case in Chelan County being confirmed within the first week of the month. More and more cases were popping up around the state, and by October 9th, Wenatchee and Chelan County's health officers Dr. J.H. Blake and Dr. F.E. Culp ordered the closing of "all public places" which included school, dance halls, theaters and churches to close at 5pm that day (Seattle had initiated their closure four days prior). Venues of the day affected by the closure were a small mix of theaters, barns and auditoriums.

By the end of the month it was reported (presumably by the Wenatchee World) that 400 people in the valley were sick, with 11 deaths. The number of ill kept increasing, and on November 9th, all local businesses (excluding grocery and drug stores) were ordered to close. An emergency hospital was set up in the Odd Fellows Hall (then located somewhere on Wenatchee Avenue between First and Second street).

On November 11th, World War I ended, and seemingly out of celebration, the business/public place ban was lifted. The emergency hospital stayed open through the next year, and in January reported that of the 124 patients they had, only 18 had passed away.

Two weeks later, the flu claimed its first and only known victim from the local music scene, violinist and band director Louis Crollard.

Louis Michael Crollard was born on February 18, 1883 in California. In 1904 (at the age of 21) he moved to Wenatchee along with his mother and younger brother Fred.

The family had previously been living in Washington D.C. where Louis had become an accomplished violinist, and played with his brother (a pianist) in musical combos.

The Wenatchee Band 1915. Director Louis Crollard sitting at the front of the group. Photo: Wenatchee Valley Museum & Cultural Center 012-51-4202

The Wenatchee Band 1915. Director Louis Crollard sitting at the front of the group. Photo: Wenatchee Valley Museum & Cultural Center 012-51-4202

The two brothers found work with the local law firm Reeves & Reeves, eventually becoming partners in the firm. In 1915, after the last Reeves retired, the firm morphed to "Crollard & Crollard".

Bands of the day featured a mix of brass and woodwind instruments with at least a couple percussionists. Violins and Cellos were the only string instruments commonly used in early 1900s music groups, and it wasn't until the '20s that local bands started incorporating banjos into the music.

During the first couple decades of Wenatchee's history, there were only a few "bands" or musical groups active in the area. Wenatchee's first band, billed initially as The Wenatchee Cornet Band then The Wenatchee Band, changed their name to The Wenatchee Military Band in 1905. The band seems to have operated for some time with around 20 members. By as early as 1907 Louis can be seen in photos of the Wenatchee Military Band as the group's director.

The Crollard Orchestra was another one of the few active musical acts in town during those years, performing in area dance halls and on occasion providing music for productions held at the Wenatchee Theatre. Members of the orchestra besides the Crollard brothers aren't known.

Louis was also one of the earliest (if not the very first) local musicians to publish a piece of original music. In 1913 Louis composed a march in honor of the Fair Hesperides (a business and agriculture fair held in Wenatchee every October during the 1910s). To my knowledge, the next piece of local sheet music wasn't copywritten and printed until 1917 by O.B. Brown, a local music store owner.

Louis continued to direct the Wenatchee Military Band and perform in local groups until he died from the flu on November 26, 1918, just two short weeks after the business/theater closure had been lifted. Louis was only 35. In the years following his passing, Louis' brother Fred directed the Wenatchee Military Band.

In December 1919, the flu hit again and brief business & school closures were ordered across the state. For this ultimately less-severe wave of the illness, an emergency hospital was set up at the Mission Street Pavilion, a closed dance hall.

Fred Crollard lived into his 80s, passing away in 1967. On top of practicing law, he was also a member of the Wenatchee school board and president of the Chamber of Commerce (just to acknowledge a few of his accolades).

Fred's fourth born child (the first born after his brother's passing) was named Louis. This Louis - born in 1921 - worked as an optometrist locally during his adulthood, and was an active musician, playing piano throughout the valley.

We've all been feeling the effects of the event closures. No shows for three weeks now! Make sure you're keeping up with all your favorite bands on social media though - whether it be merch sales or Facebook live sessions, musicians seem to be adjusting quickly to this situation. A few interviews I was going to conduct with some aging local musicians have been cancelled, but with the help of the Wenatchee Museum, and a few books from Wenatchee historians of the past (John Gellately, Eva Anderson, Bruce Mitchell - published by the Wenatchee World), I was able to piece together the story of how the 1918 flu pandemic affected the Wenatchee Valley and the music scene that existed here a century ago.

Luckily pandemics like these aren't super common, and there aren't several instances throughout our history to look back on for similarities. Let's hope that these containment measures prove to be helpful, and that soon restrictions can be lifted so live music can once again fill the valley with sound.

This Might Matter: podcast of laughs and interesting local guests

by ron evans

TPDM HOSTS: BRIAN DESHAZO, LUKE ATKINSON, KATIE ATKINSON

TPDM HOSTS: BRIAN DESHAZO, LUKE ATKINSON, KATIE ATKINSON

During the great Hunkering Down of 2020, podcasts will likely be helping everyone stay sane-ish, and you have plenty to choose from (over 800,000 according to a recent article by Forbes). At least one of them is created right here in sleepy ol’ Wenatchee - This Probably Doesn’t Matter, co-hosted by local comedian and promoter Luke Atkinson.

“The initial groundwork for This Probably Doesn’t Matter was laid in a low-ceiling, dimly-lit, dank shed in the winter of 2017. Brian DeShazo and myself really fell in love with podcasts as a form of broadcasting, and it quickly became evident that we needed to throw our hat in the ring. Many a beer were drank and cigarettes smoked in that same shed while we hammered out the vision for what TPDM would eventually become. It took us a year to actually get the podcast live. Something else we learned early on was that Katie, my wife and co-host, needed to be behind a microphone, and she now joins me on (almost) every episode. Brian has been a recurring guest and host. He’s also spending an absurd amount of time editing most episodes. He is the closest thing we have to an audio engineer, which he would tell you does not mean much, but we are very grateful for his efforts.” 

How often are you putting out your shows?

Right now, we are putting out one episode per month. I would love to see this ramp-up in the future, but for now we are taking it one month at a time.   

What was your aim with the podcast concerning subject matter and demographic?

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As far as the demographic goes, I would like to think that our guests are interesting people and everyone should listen to them. I understand that we are not everyone’s cup of tea, as adult language and themes frequently arise (and depending on how many beers I’ve had can take on a life of their own.) I really feel like there are thousands of unique and compelling stories in all of us, and I want this to be a platform on which people can express those stories. So to boil it down, if you can put up with listening to me, you will hear some pretty cool stories from interesting characters, aspiring artists, and folks a lot smarter than myself.    

Give us an example of a few of your favorite episodes or guests.

I can’t imagine a more difficult question, as the three of us have truly enjoyed getting to know all of our guests. Each of us might have a different personal favorite episode, but collectively two of our favorites were Bandits of the Animal Kingdom (Ep. #12) and Matthew Pippin (Ep. #13). Danny and Amanda from Bandits of the Animal Kingdom have become a formidable presence in the local music scene, and they’re also fantastic people who’ve become good friends of ours. Anyone who knows Matthew needs no explanation on why this episode is a must-listen. If you don’t know him, you’ll quickly learn that his charm and wit fill a room and we had an awesome time talking with him.  

I would be remiss if I did not point you toward my favorite episode: Geoff Is Butthurt. Brian, Geoff Knapp and I survive a dangerous motor-vehicle accident thanks to my million-dollar maneuvers, while Geoff’s wife shows calm under extreme pressure, helping us make it to Joe Rogan and Dave Chappelle's sold-out comedy show at the Tacoma Dome. We recorded it in the wee hours of August 3rd, 2019 at the exquisitely trashy Travelodge in Tacoma. Post-wreck analysis, post-show antics, and much more!

What are your hopes for the future concerning the show’s progression? 

Right off the bat we have a long list of guests that we still want to invite. We have hosted some live events in the past and look forward to exploring possibilities for doing so in the future. Frequency and consistency regarding episode releases continues to be a goal we strive toward, and we hope to provide even more types of content in the near future. 

Are there any plans to do anything special during the virus shut down?

Yes, absolutely! We are planning a dive into the livestream world, and while I can make no promises as to production value, plan on seeing a livestream from This Probably Doesn’t Matter very soon. 

The podcast is available on all major platforms (i.e. iTunes, Spotify, Youtube, ect.). If you find your podcasts elsewhere, just search This Probably Doesn’t Matter. Make sure to also check us out on Facebook and Instagram (@thisprobablydoesntmatter), and please join the mailing list on our website: www.thisprobablydoesntmatter.com (possibly the world’s most-neglected website).

Doc Is In: Times Of Crisis

Q:  How can I stay well in a crisis?

Dr. Allegra says…

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A:  Recent events revealed just how tenuous our balance with health can be. Epidemics such as these often leave people feeling panicked and confused. In the midst of all this fear and confusion, you have a choice to make. How are you going to respond? It really depends on your goals. Do you want to cultivate love and health in the world, or chaos? 

Let's be clear, yes, life is out of our control, and the only thing you have control over is how you choose to respond. How you choose to treat yourself and others during a crisis says a lot about you and your habits. Ask yourself: “Am I nourishing my life? Am I cultivating love or fear?”. Reroute and reassess your choices if you don’t like your answer. 

So what can you do to help yourself and everyone else during these difficult times? Practice honest, mindful self-care. These tools can help boost your immune system and speed healing, as well as enhance your ability to cope with stress. We can all use a little help right about now.

Get back to the basics.

Keep it simple and easy. Yes, it can be easy. 

Eat right.

Just eat real food. Highly processed foods are never a good idea, but these days we must be even more vigilant about our food choices. Put simply, real whole food gives your body more of the building blocks required for healing and repair, while highly processed foods can deplete your nutrients over time, thereby stripping you of the resources needed to heal more efficiently.  

Plenty of clean water.

The rule of thumb is to drink half your body weight in ounces of hydrating liquid every day.  Adequate hydration helps your lymphatic system work properly. Your lymphatic system is one of your garbage collectors, it removes waste from your tissues so you want to ensure that you have enough water every day to help it work effectively.

Sleep right.

Getting enough sleep is essential to give your body time to do regular maintenance. Aim for at least 7-9 hours of restful sleep every night.

Slow down.

We are all being forced to slow down, and I think this is a good skill to cultivate. Keep in mind that rest- mental, emotional, and physical- is productive and pivotal to wellness on all levels.

Take media breaks.

Let’s face it, the news can be stressful. We are not meant to know what is going on in every part of the world at all times. It is ok to take media breaks. I often will prescribe news fasts to my patients.

By using this opportunity to become a more positive force in the world, we become the healer for ourselves and those around us.

It all starts with you, right here, right now. 

ABOUT DR. ALLEGRA HART

Dr. Allegra Hart is a licensed naturopathic physician, speaker, author of Nourishing Space Within: Essentials of Self-Care, founder of Naturae Naturopathic Clinic and Dr. Allegra’s Apothecary, and works with patients worldwide.  

Dr. Allegra specializes in helping women rebuild their health from the inside out by cultivating natural self-care. If we as individuals create healing foundations on our own- the ripple effect will inevitably inspire others to do the same, and together we can be the change we wish to see in the world. Check out Dr. Allegra’s healthy living online course for your next level of support at naturaeclinic.com/wellness-programs

If you have a question for Dr. Allegra, email us at info@naturaeclinic.com with the subject “The Doctor Is In Question”. 

CSTV 003 Constructing a Crossword Puzzle with Cory "Damn You" Calhoun

If you’ve ever enjoyed (or strongly dis-enjoyed) one of Cory “Damn You” Calhoun’s addictive crossword puzzles in The Comet, you will likely get a kick out of watching the world-famous anagrammist demonstrating his method for creating one from scratch. SPOILER ALERT: You may wish to solve the featured puzzle first before watching the demonstration. Available HERE

ARTBEATS: Art Is Us

by lonnie broadvalley

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You know those big, sweeping questions a teacher might ask like, ‘What makes us human?’ or ‘What is art for?’. Most likely it was at the start of a humanities class (art, history, cultural studies, philosophy, etc.). You kiddos might recognize these essential fields of study today as “electives” or “nap time.” Questions like these are designed to: (a) generate ANY response (b) demonstrate that there are MANY right answers, and (c) serve a heaping slice of humble pie to the honor students in the front row. By the time I had been in the art department for a few years, I looked forward to these questions. The most eloquent response to ‘What is art for?’ that I can remember is that art ‘… creates empathy.’ Nice one. This phrase stuck with me because it fits from any angle. When experiencing a song/play/poem/painting, we try to understand more about the artist, and from the artist’s perspective, the response can reveal a lot about their audience. When Life magazine did a big feature on Jackson Pollock in 1948, anointing him “The greatest living painter in the U.S.,” its citizens got their panties in such a twist, I don’t think art has been viewed in the same way since. Not only did you hear a lot of indignant responses like the popular,’ My kid could do that,’ but I think it actually pushed his art further from the culture that produced it. Sadly, this is the old story about rejection of the unfamiliar and it repeats again and again in art history. Fortunately, many people recognized the reaction for what it was and decided to view this new style with an open mind, considering the social and cultural clusterf*#k from whence it came. A popular example of this sort of exchange is Norman Rockwell’s 1961 painting titled, The Connoisseur, depicting a man with his back to us wearing a business suit and standing in front of a huge, abstract painting meant to look like a Jackson Pollock - all energy, drips, and splatters. I do wonder what the man thinks of the work but I really appreciate that Rockwell didn’t show this guy’s expression. When this was painted, a man in a suit like this represented a pretty conservative, white, middle class American male. To make this in 1961 is the artist’s way of saying, ‘See? We want to understand each other!’. I’m assuming a lot here but I believe that’s the gist of it. My point is that it doesn’t matter whether or not the guy in the painting likes the art, what matters is that he’s giving it some thought. Scott Bailey, head of the Art Department at Wenatchee Valley College asks his students to spend an entire class period in front of one piece in the MAC gallery. He explains that this is an incredible gift to an artist to spend time considering their work, giving it a chance to affect you beyond first impressions. When we think about our response to something/someone, hopefully some truth about ourselves is revealed.